After my mother passed away in 1982, I found the Mother’s Day advertising on TV to be a painful reminder that I no longer had a mom to give a gift.  Now with email, the reminders show up in my In Box on a daily basis.  It seems that stores and nonprofits – including Dignity:Liberia - all have a Mothers’ Day message.  As painful as such messages used to be for me, I doubt it compares to that of a mother who has lost a child.
 
Most fistula survivors with whom I spoke have suffered stillbirth.  They carried their baby to term only to lose the child following a prolonged labor with questionable assistance from a birth attendant with no medical training.
 
A few years ago, people started wishing all women a happy Mother’s Day.  I felt that took away from all the moms who had gone through the highs and lows of raising a child.  I thought mothers deserved a special day of their own.  I’ve since reconsidered.  I have no children, yet many wonderful children have been in my life: nieces, nephews, children at church, and a number of first and second graders to whom I’ve been a reading buddy.  I imagine the children just want to show love and appreciation to those women who have assisted them along life’s journey.
 
We invite you to comment on this Facebook post with a picture of that special “mom” in your life – whether she’s your mother, daughter, or some other relation (or no relation) to you.  Tell us why she’s special.
 
We also ask that you make a donation to the construction of our maternity waiting home, House of Hope and Dignity, so that instead of a painful reminder, rural women in Liberia will have a joyful celebration of a special relationship on Mother’s Day.

I recently got my second COVID vaccine.  It’s been just over a year since the pandemic took off in the United States, and it seems as if we’ve been waiting for a long time for things to get back to “normal.”  I went to a mass vaccination center for my shots.  As I stood in the quick-moving, but long line, I was reminded of my first trip to Liberia as a dignity advocate.  On that trip, we gave vaccinations and distributed reading glasses at Charles Luke Town.  I remember the many villagers lining up to receive vaccines or glasses, much as I lined up for my shots.  That was nine years ago!
 
While we have engaged in various ministries (menstrual hygiene cup distribution days, sewing reusable menstrual pads, an agricultural trip) over the years, our main involvement, the heart and soul of Dignity:Liberia, has been working with survivors of obstetric fistula, trying to restore their dignity while engaging in craft projects and other fun activities.  We have never lost sight of our goal to combat obstetric fistula at its source by building a maternity waiting home in rural Liberia. 
 
We will soon meet that goal!  In February, many dignitaries attended the ground-breaking ceremony on the future site of House of Hope and Dignity.  The land has been cleared.  Blueprints are being drawn, and soon the yellow trucks (bulldozers) will be at work!  In October, a team of dignity advocates will go to Liberia to help with the building.  In partnership with First Baptist Church, Oldest Congo Town, we will be sifting sand, laying rebar, pouring the foundation, and placing plumbing.   
 
We have been waiting for this a long time.  We are so grateful to you for your unwavering support, prayers, donations, for spreading the word about us, and waiting with us.  

Kathy Beth Stavinoha
Kathy Beth lives and works in Austin, TX.  She graduated from high school in Monrovia, Liberia in 1977.

Last month, much of the continental United States was paralyzed by severe winter weather.  Snow, ice, and sub-zero temperatures brought a lot of businesses and transportation to a standstill.  Even Texas, where I live, was not spared.  In fact, Texas suffered catastrophic damage as much of the state lost power and water. 
 
On February 14th, my husband and I were excited at the prospect of seeing snow in the morning.  When we went to bed, nothing was amiss.  We woke up at 2:00 a.m. to no power and plunging temperatures.  At first, we believed crews were working through the night to restore power.  As the outage continued, we learned that power would not be restored for days.  We were unable to reach help due to the condition of the roads.  We thought our street was the only one affected.  Houses a few streets over had power, and we could see the sky lit up by the lights of the downtown buildings.  We felt abandoned.  We felt isolated.  It was only after everything was over that we learned the extent of the outage and that millions of people were affected, just like us. 
 
The restoration of power wasn’t the end.  As temperatures rose, pipes burst.  People could not stop the leaks, resulting in the need for a massive clean-up.   Some will have a long wait before there will be repairs.  Millions were under a boil water notice. 
 
Perhaps it was because Becky and Kathi were in warm Liberia, for the groundbreaking of House of Hope and Dignity, that my thoughts turned to Liberia and I saw several parallels to fistula survivors.   
 
As their due date approaches, women are excited at the prospect of seeing the baby they have carried for 9 months.  They go into labor not expecting anything will be wrong with their delivery.  When the Traditional Tribal Midwife, who lacks medical training, realizes she’s dealing with a breech birth or other complication and sends her client to a medical clinic, the woman believes things will soon be better.
 
When a woman delivers a stillborn baby, she feels sadness and a sense of loss.  When the leaking starts, there is confusion and a sense of isolation.  More than one fistula survivor told me that she   felt abandoned.  She thought she was the only one with this condition.  It is only after she has fistula repair surgery, through the Liberia Fistula Project, and starts to meet others who suffered from fistula, that she realizes that there are others going through the same thing.  For some of the survivors, fistula repair surgery is not the end.  Some of them are still leaking and are awaiting future surgeries.  
 
During the power outage, help came from dedicated workers and generous volunteers.  Similarly, there are programs in Liberia that aim to heal and rehabilitate those with fistula.  Dignity:Liberia is honored to work with many dedicated Liberians whose job it is to help the women and girls with fistula.  We are also blessed with the support of our generous donors and the assistance of kind-hearted volunteers. 
 
However, the goal of Dignity:Liberia is to prevent fistula from happening in the first place.  That is why we are building a maternity waiting home.  We will soon share more about the progress we are making.  We want our sisters and daughters in Liberia to know they are not alone. 

Drone footage of women going to the groundbreaking for House of Hope and Dignity.

Kathy Beth Stavinoha
Kathy Beth lives and works in Austin, TX.  She graduated from high school in Monrovia, Liberia in 1977.

Due to the ongoing COVID pandemic, Dignity:Liberia is not leading a team of Dignity Advocates to Liberia this February.  What a difference from February 2020.  Last year’s team taught over 173 individuals, mostly women, how to sew reusable menstrual pads.  We coordinated a menstrual cup distribution day with the United States Peace Corps.  We selected the land for our maternity waiting home, House of Hope and Dignity, and signed paperwork toward its purchase.  I also had the honor of interviewing a number of fistula survivors for our series, In a Fistula Survivor’s Voice. 
 
This pandemic has caused a lot of plans to be altered, but it has not stopped Dignity:Liberia from moving forward in building House of Hope and Dignity.  Board president, Kathi Gutierrez, and board member, Becky Mueller Huner, left for Liberia on February 3 in order to finalize the purchase of the land.  They will make arrangements to clear the land and meet with an architect.  There will be a ground-breaking ceremony which we’ll share with you at a future date.  Kathi and Becky will, of course, visit the Phebe Rehabilitation Center as well.  Oh, how I wish I could be there!
 
Although I am not physically in Liberia in February 2021, I am reliving my memories from February 2020.  On that trip I also interviewed Emma Kennedy Katakpah, Clinical Coordinator for Fistula with Liberia’s Ministry of Health.  Last April I posted part of her interview, in which she shared Survivor Success Stories.  I thought you would enjoy hearing more of what she had to say as part of this month’s blog.   

Like many Americans, my husband and I include our pets in our Christmas celebration, hanging stockings, and giving them presents.  This year, however, our dog, Russell, wasn’t feeling well on Christmas Day.  We thought he just had an upset tummy and took him to our veterinarian the next day.  She directed us to an emergency veterinary specialty hospital, as Russell had pancreatitis and gallbladder problems.  She first called a hospital near our house, but being the day after Christmas, there was no one to do the ultrasound, so she sent us to one that was farther away.  After he was discharged from the hospital and returned home, I couldn’t help but think how fortunate we are to have these options.  It made me think that many people around the world don’t have access to the same level of care that Russell had.
 
Many women in rural Liberia turn to a traditional tribal midwife (TTM), who lacks medical training, to assist in their delivery.  By the time they or their family or the TTM realize the birth isn’t going smoothly, it has become an emergency.  Unfortunately, rural Liberians often don’t have the option of going to a nearby hospital.  They have to travel a great distance for assistance. 
 
“Farther away” for us was about a 30-minute drive in our car over smooth roads (maybe 40 minutes in heavy traffic).  For the rural Liberian woman, transportation is a big expense.  “Farther away” can be several hours over unpaved roads and paved ones gouged out with potholes.  Travel may be on a crowded bus, in a wheelbarrow, or on the back of a family member.   
 
Once the family arrives at the medical facility, there’s the matter of payment.  Before Russell was treated, we were required to pay 75% of the estimated cost in advance.  For us, it was a matter of providing credit card information.  This wouldn’t be the case for the family arriving at the clinic or hospital.  Cash payment would be required and would likely be a significant percentage of the family’s income.  Even returning for follow-up care is a challenge for the rural Liberian woman.
 
Per the American Veterinary Medical Association, Americans spent $95.7 billion on pet services and products in 2019.  Per PetBusines.com, the average American dog owner spends $153.08 per month on their dog.  If you are one of those Americans, please consider making a donation of just 10% of that amount to Dignity:Liberia for our maternity waiting home, House of Hope and Dignity.  Proper pre-natal care and education is key to preventing a routine birth from becoming a medical emergency that can result in the loss of a child and a fistula. 

Kathy Beth Stavinoha
Kathy Beth lives and works in Austin, TX.  She graduated from high school in Monrovia, Liberia in 1977.

Christmas will be here in just 10 days.  I admit that on Christmas Day, I tend to focus on the exchange of gifts with my husband, but during Advent, I love to hear the prophesies of a Savior and read about the Holy Family. 
 
According to scripture, Joseph and Mary traveled to Bethlehem to be counted in a census.  I imagine it was very difficult for Mary, who was far along in her pregnancy.  To make matters worse, there was no place for them to stay, so she and Joseph ended up sleeping in a stable, which was also where Mary gave birth.
 
My husband and I have a variety of Nativity sets displayed around the house.  Some depict a very clean and sanitary setting with a smiling Jesus surrounded by animals.  If you’ve been around cows and horses and chickens, you know the stable couldn’t have been that clean. 
 
I’ve interviewed a number of fistula survivors and many of them also gave birth in unhygienic settings.  Others, after being in labor for 4, 5, even 6 days, tried to make the difficult journey to a clinic to give birth.  Sadly, I met these women because their prolonged labor and delivery resulted in a fistula. 
 
Dignity:Liberia plans to make room for pregnant women to stay in close proximity to professional medical support where they will receive prenatal care and nutrition.  That “room” will be our maternity waiting home, House of Hope and Dignity.
  
The home will need to be stocked with supplies for the women who stay there.  Many of these items can be found on our Amazon wish list.  This Christmas, if you are able, please consider making a purchase from this list. 
 
In closing, I would like to include a few lines from one of my favorite carols, In the Bleak Midwinter, based on the poem by Cristina Georgina Rosetti:
 
What can I give Him, poor as I am?
If I were a shepherd, I would bring a lamb;
If I were a wise man, I would do my part;
Yet what can I give Him?
Give Him my heart.
 
Merry Christmas!

 
Kathy Beth Stavinoha
Kathy Beth lives and works in Austin, TX.  She graduated from high school in Monrovia, Liberia in 1977.

I think we all can agree that 2020 has been a challenging year.  I have had my moments of being stressed, being depressed, and being unable to sleep.  Yet, despite this, I have been blessed this year and am thankful. 

As an organization, Dignity:Liberia has been blessed as well.  We give our thanks to all of you for your ongoing interest and support.

I recently received an email from my friend, Dignity:Liberia secretary Linda Thornsberry, who wrote that she and Kathi had packed 4 boxes for shipping.  The items they packed were made by ladies at her church who are part of the First Baptist Church Lee’s Summit Crafter’s Group.  The group’s leader, Jane Pritchett, organized a group of 10 – 15 women who generously shared their time, talent, and resources to make the following items:

• 22 dolls
• Items for feminine hygiene kits:
  • 58 bags
  • 114 shields
  • 300 cloth pads
• 30 baby blankets
• 20 pillowcases
• 30 maternity dresses

Martha Griffin, with whom I served in Liberia this past February, was a great consultant to the Crafter’s Group.  She also sewed, embroidered, and provided labels.  We are so grateful to these caring ladies.  We give thanks for them and for all of you who have supported us by making us your charitable organization on Amazon Smile, by making a purchase from our wish list, by making cash gifts, by donating medical supplies, by praying for us, by serving as Dignity Advocates, by liking us on Facebook and sharing our posts, by donating talents, such as updating our website, and working behind the scenes.

Our friends in Liberia celebrated Thanksgiving earlier this month.  Next week, we celebrate in the United States.  Yes, we give thanks, and we have prepared a short video to express our appreciation.  Happy Thanksgiving! 

Several years ago, a friend told me that in order to get airline points, she charges everything she buys and pays the full balance each month.  Soon after, I started doing the same and have since taken many a “free” trip!  
 
During the Covid pandemic, I’ve started doing more of my shopping online, much of it on Amazon.  I recently noticed that in all of 2019 I placed a total of 29 orders on Amazon, but in the past 6 months I’ve made 44 purchases!  Each order has added airline points to my account.  One day I’ll be able to travel again and the points will come in handy! 
 
But did you know that these purchases have also benefited Dignity:Liberia?  That’s right!  Amazon smile donates 0.5% of the price of each eligible purchase to the charity of my choice, which happens to be Dignity:Liberia!

In fact, all of my purchases over a number of years have resulted in Dignity:Liberia receiving $35.34.  The purchases of all of the people who support Dignity:Liberia comes to $1,068.72.  We receive a check every quarter.

Would you like to get in on the action?  Here’s how: on your first visit to smile.amazon.com, select a charitable organization to receive donations from eligible purchases before you begin shopping.  We are listed as Dignity Liberia (without the colon).  It is that simple!!!  You can even get the Amazon Smile App if you use your phone to shop.
 
But wait!  There’s more!  We recently updated our Amazon Wish List, Containers of Hope Supply Needs.  It includes numerous items that will help healthcare providers address the treatment and recovery needs of women and girls with fistula.  We also are accepting items for our maternity waiting home, education and general assistance.   The item you purchase to help in Liberia, will also generate a cash gift for Dignity:Liberia!  Our next container will be shipped this month, but we accept items year-round. 

What a deal!  I like getting as much “bang for my buck” as possible.  By buying an item from our wish list, I support my favorite organization with supplies and a cash gift and I get airline points!  I hope you can help as well.
 
Go to Dignity:Liberia’s Amazon Wish List to donate to our Containers of Hope.  For more information about our medical supply needs, please contact us.
 
Thank you so much!

A few years ago, as I tried to read the list of ingredients on a can of cat food, I groused to my husband, “Well if they want you to be able to read this, why don’t they make it bigger?”  It wasn’t too long afterward that it occurred to me that I might need reading glasses.  The next time I was in a discount store, I stopped by the display of reading glasses and bought a pair.  Problem solved.  I’ve actually purchased readers of different strengths for needle work and computer usage and have a pair in almost every room of the house.  While my deteriorating vision is frustrating, it is easily rectified.
 
While going through pictures for the May 14th blog, Sewing Reusable Menstrual Pads, I ran across the above picture of a lady reading a pamphlet.  I asked Kay Green about it.  She told me that there were always some students who could not see to thread their needles.  The teachers watched out for them and advised her when they noticed a student struggling. 

Kay had a supply of reading glasses and used the only thing she had, which was a Daily Bread devotional, to determine what strength the lady needed.  She had her read the largest text, then medium, then at the very bottom of the page where the smallest text appeared.  They would try various pairs of glasses until they could see the text at the bottom.  One of them could not read, but said she could identify letters. This went on at each of the three sessions that was held.  Kay wrote that this definitely was a needed ministry, and she would not travel again on a mission trip without a supply of reading glasses. 

The need for glasses is a minor inconvenience for me.  It’s more a reminder that I am getting older than anything else.  In Liberia, the need has a far greater impact on a person’s life and not just in rural communities.  Not being able to read without corrective vision can end an education.  A severe vision impairment can impact the type of work a woman can do.  The ability to see clearly can change that. 
 
Kay found it both fun and gratifying to help the ladies who took the sewing classes, adding that they were so grateful.  Her foresight to be prepared with reading glasses and a way to test vision may have a far greater impact than she realized! 

Kathy Beth Stavinoha
Kathy Beth lives and works in Austin, TX.  She graduated from high school in Monrovia, Liberia in 1977. 

As mentioned in the July 16th blog, Steven Stauffer, Gender Coordinator for Peace Corps/Liberia, joined Dignity:Liberia to hold a menstrual hygiene cup demonstration and menstrual hygiene awareness activity on February 27.  The event was held at Effort Baptist Church in Paynesville. 
 
Prior to conducting the event, Steve was kind enough to give me an interview.  He started with the U.S. Peace Corp in 2005, first serving in Burkina Faso.  In 2007, he transferred to Ethiopia.  He had been in Liberia since September 2019.  [Note:  the Covid-19 pandemic necessitated his return to the United States.  He continues to work with his partners in Liberia through teleconferencing.]
 
Menstrual hygiene is one of core areas that Peace Corps/Liberia is working on to make sure that girls have all of the knowledge, the skills, and the attitudes necessary to keep them in school.  One of the reasons why girls drop out of school is that they do not have proper menstrual hygiene products. 
 
Peace Corps Liberia partners with a number of organizations, such as Dignity:Liberia, which helps them achieve their goals.  They want to give girls a sense of dignity so they can stay in school and don’t have to drop out of class for 3 to 5 days a month because they’re having their periods.
 
Steve worked with Girl Up Clubs and the Big Sisters Program to get the word out about the distribution we held.  These organizations had previously gone through the menstrual hygiene awareness activities and there was some built-up demand for the menstrual cup distribution because of that. 
 
We are grateful to Steve and the Peace Corps for working with us.  As he said, when girls stay in school, the whole country benefits. 

Interview audio: